So what if Jesus was married?
"What difference does it make whether or not Jesus was married. It doesn't affect his teaching does it?" This is a question that a lot of people have been asking. "Couldn't you accept this as true and have it not change a thing?"
It does make a difference, though not for the reasons you might think; and while some of you may take issue with the assumptions behind why it is important, the purpose of this post will be to explain why the question is important in the first place.
On the one hand, marriage, sex and having children, taken together, are a good thing. So much so that we can argue, on one level, that marriage, in and of itself, should have no effect on how we view Jesus. After all, in addition to being fully God, Jesus is also fully man.
On the other hand, while marriage would not diminish who Jesus is, to say that he was married (as odd as this sounds) would. Here's why:
More than becoming a man in order to just deliver a message, Jesus' purpose for entering into history was to do something for mankind that both needed to be done, but that mankind could not do for itself. This was to fix mankind's relationship with God; in order to accomplish this, he had to live his life without sinning in thought or action, and, in dying, accept a punishment and thereby pay a debt that would allow mankind to be reconciled to God. In other words, Jesus' "prime directive" was to reunite man to God ; anything that he said or did was in support of this purpose.
So if Jesus' purpose in becoming man was to die the death he died by being hung on the cross, two questions arise in relation to his being married:
1) Would marriage have supported or hindered this purpose?
2) What does this say about the reliability of ?
The first question is less weighty than the second, but still has great relevance. If the purpose of Jesus' coming was to live and die in the way that He did in order to to show God's love by obtaining reconciliation for mankind, then getting married only hinders that purpose by creating questions and diversions of precisely the kind that we find in The daVinci Code.
More importantly, If Jesus was married, this would not only muddy the waters by raising the question "why"? but it would also mean that the Bible (which is pretty clear that He was not married) is not a reliable source of information.
Therefore, if, in answer to question 2, the Bible is not reliable, not only are the words of Jesus also unreliable, but so is the information in provides on what we need to know in order to be reconciled to God. In turn this is important because if we cannot be reconciled with God, we have no reason to have confidence or hope in this world or in any world after we die -and without this hope, there is no sensible reason for anyone to live or strive for anything greater than their own self-interest.
Of course, in order for my thinking to be relevant, all the assumptions that I am making about God, reconciliation, hope, and the Bible being the vehicle by which God tells us things - these things must all be true.
Is this helpful to those of you who have been asking this question?